Rather than being reactionary in the negative about another person’s opinions, comments or actions. Step back from the situation and look at what your response is. Is your response justified or perhaps you may have misinterpreted the comment or actions. Are you taking on the energy of a person that is perceived as negative? Can you pull back on your emotions and not engage negatively in the situation, to not be caught up in the cycle?
Think about what benefits you by not responding with anger. How hard is it in a split second to just refocus your response; to de-escalate your emotions and response to something that you normally would be quick to anger? Set the intention of retraining yourself to think about how to respond to something that might provoke a negative emotional reaction.
This takes great effort and deliberate control over your instinctual response not to inflame yourself. Perhaps you are being lead to react to a situation in a hostile way, not for your benefit but for others to provoke a hostile response. Either way; being non reactive it is something that an individual must learn to do in order to have a more healthy mindset. Think first about what you hear or see, and then formulate a response that does not reflect poorly upon yourself. Over thinking the issue is also something that must be addressed, because to dwell on the issue may cause you to go into an unhealthy mindset and this doesn’t benefit you one bit.
From a mental health perspective as well as one’s general health, anger is an unhealthy energy to create within yourself. No matter what the source of anger or upset is, it never benefits you. It may benefit others to see you upset and therefore not just is your negative emotions causing you distress but the others may enjoy seeing you hurt. Your distressed energy feeds egos but starves you of emotional nourishment and spiritual growth.
One must be forever mindful of the power and effect of strong emotions and the harmful unintended effects within us. Reactionary mindsets are distracted mindsets, unable to quickly assess the moment and maintain a dignified equilibrium. Practicing serenity and calm confidence does not always come naturally for many people, however it can be achieved through meditation and focus on calm logic. A wise person is rarely in distress, they exude calm confidence and rationale when faced with negative challenges.
The key to being less reactive and more relaxed is through practicing mindfulness, wisdom and self discipline. Be your own little Buddha by going within regularly to observe your thoughts and feelings honestly, seek the higher wisdom from within. From a place of grace and stillness to live in accordance with your inner peace and harmony. This is the challenge, we must strive for by mindful attention to our inner world. Learn to bring forth that confidence and wisdom into daily life to guide you through moments where you may normally feel anger towards others and hold the calmness, giving yourself time to be composed without the usual instinctive reactionary instinct.
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